In our modern culture, the language of hope is typically the language of positivity. The ideal and words of positivity support facing your challenge with a sense that “things will work out” or “everything happens for a reason” with the balance of accepting and expecting. Accepting our situation and expecting that, if we follow a certain course, we will most likely have a certain outcome. But there is insecurity in that message, it takes the power out of our hands and uncomfortably into the fog of intangibility.
What if our self-talk was more definitive? What if being hopeful was more about being “full” of certainty than expectation. Even though the journey of healing and recovery is based on so many factors beyond our control, I would suggest that the language of hope be colored by your certainties. You can be certain that your care decisions have been based on research and your due diligence. You can be certain that you will hold up your end of the process, and step firmly out of your comfort zone when required. You can be certain that you do not have to be anyone other than yourself. You can love yourself when you’re having a bad day and give yourself your own high five on the great days. The language of hope can be based on the certainty that an action plan is your way through and no matter how crooked the road can get, you will reach the end, the other side of pain and the other side of fear by staying full of hope supported by certainty.